Virginia Marjorie Lemons, 95 years young, passed away peacefully on May 1, 2015 at Holly Creek Retirement Community in Centennial, Colo. in the company of her oldest son, Charles. She remained alert, with a sense of humor, and thinking of others to the last.
Born in South Bend, Ind. on July 26, 1919 as Virginia Marjorie Voigt, she married Charles Frederick Lemons in 1941, and they had five sons.
Virginia (Ginny) was always hardworking, service-oriented, progressive and inclusive in her thinking and her love of others. She aspired to be a nurse from early on, encouraged by her younger brother Jack. She graduated from Memorial Hospital Nursing School as an RN, and worked much of her life full- or part-time. She loved being a nurse and brought endless tales (full of real life and humor) back home to share with her family.
Raising five boys, while her husband worked tirelessly as a CPA, she showed all of them core values of love, tolerance, honesty, hard work and humor. She taught each of them to embrace life, to take risks, that none of us is better than anyone else, that we are all part of the human family, that we should share our resources and knowledge and gifts with others — that we should walk along side of each other — not in front or in back, but together. She even had all male pets — dogs, cats, turtles, rabbits, fish — which she cherished late into her life.
She loved her family, and saw each of her sons through college and into various professions, married and having children and grandchildren. She loved young people, and rejoiced in her grandkids and great grandkids — loved their singing, their artwork, their photos, their stories, their ambitions, their adventures. And Virginia loved her husband and was with him always through a long journey with Alzheimer disease, until he died in 1996.
Her church family was part of her true family throughout her life, and her faith was as natural to her as breathing. Her faith was one of living, one that she quietly acted out genuinely each day. It revealed itself in all of her friends. Every time her sons (as adults living all over the country) would visit her, they thought that they had already met all of her friends, but then they would meet 10 or 20 new ones — people would come to her just to spend time in her presence. She was kind, humble, interesting and interested, caring and humorous.
She loved fishing, digging in the garden, watching her kids play marbles and baseball, reading good books, playing scrabble, writing old fashioned letters to friends around the country, to her brother-in-law in Switzerland and his family, and to close friends in Kenya. She went to Kenya twice after she was 70 years old with members of her Connecticut church, Noroton Presbyterian Church.
Virginia understood the foibles of life, the challenges we all seem to create or have to face, the strengths and frailties we all have, the beauty of nature which she never lost touch with, the richness and harmony that love brings. She lived simply, not wanting for anything because she didn’t want anything – other than family, friends and faith. She truly understood the meaning of life — as “walking each other home” — and she knew it wasn’t necessary to be carrying a lot of stuff.
Virginia is survived by all of her sons and their wives: Charles, Jr. and Eileen (with children David and Ashley Lemons, John and Jennifer Turner), James and Pamela (with children Ken, Kevin, David and Meghan Costa), Richard and Diana (with children Alex, Sam and Meg), Robert and Robin (with children Jonathan and Lucy Lemons, James and Kristen Bierman, Robbie and Katie), David and Anna (with children Katie, Christopher and Stephen). In addition there are seven great-grandchildren.
Virginia made the world a better, kinder place — she always seemed to see things clearly as her values were simple and straightforward. Right and wrong appeared to be easy for her, because love always led the way. She cared about people, animals, lakes, flowers, trees, rocks, stars and our Creator — the whole Creation — and she cared about each and every one of us, one at a time. She has all of our love forever.
A private memorial service is planned for sometime later this year at Noroton Presbyterian Church in Darien, Conn., where Virginia will be with her husband.
In lieu of flowers, please send any donations to the Alzheimers Foundation, Broadmoor Community Church in Colorado Springs, Noroton Presbyterian Church in Darien, or the Nambale Magnet School in Kenya (www.nambalemagnet.org).
— The Family